Saturday, February 28, 2009

yay!

i am home for an entire week! in my own bed! with my own food! and in the city i love!

just in time for the new neighborhood market to open up too! i shall have to take a walk there in the afternoon and see if there is anything good. it used to be a mexican type of grocery store--which i lovvvved because they had the jarritos tamarind soda that i am so fond of and the coconut soda as well--but now it's been through an entire overhaul. i am hoping it is just a nicer looking, cleaner version of the same store.

who knows though. i am thinking i should try and be frugal with my money as well since nyc wants over 1k from me in back taxes. so maybe it's time to relearn restraint? especially with all the traveling i've been doing and the traveling still to come!

anyhow, i am LOVING marinating at home at the moment. i feel like i want to glue myself to my neighborhood, my apartment, my room, my bed--me. it's so nice to just be able to relax at home. i don't care how dorky that sounds. i haven't seen my bed in far too long and i want to make use of the high rent i pay!

funny, half of this was written yesterday but i couldn't figure out what i was forgetting to blog about so i left it unfinished. sadly enough, it must not have been that important because i still don't remember.

i'm over it!

"let's see how long we can keep him before he runs out screaming. i'll pretend to have mild dementia, and you can complain about your sciatica in german. we'll try to beat our personal market-researcher containment record of two hours and twelve minutes" --thursday next first among sequels

Sunday, February 22, 2009

why am i so darn busy?

oh yeah.

cause i took a long weekend and went to visit family and friends in seattle!

gah. plus my timing is all warped now. i slept until 10am yesterday. then slept until 11am today and i'm stillllll tired. plus i've been doing stuff nonstop. wiping up the dash in my car, vacuuming my car, doing some much needed laundry, eating my mom's specially prepared lao food, and doing a ton of WORK (conference calls, spreadsheets, miscellaneous account management, answering calls, meeting preps, solidifying new accounts, handling miscellaneous important and/or urgent pleas for assistance, updating account files, etc.etc.etc.) and traveling non-stop.

my hectic schedule has included:

02/02 - 02/03 : northern jersey
02/12 - 02/17: seattle
02/18 - 02/20: the hamptons
02/23 - 02/27: dirty jersey
03/09 - 03/13: boston and maine
03/23 - 03/27: dirty jersey
03/30 - 04/01: the hamptons
04/09 - 04/13: san francisco

pretty quick turnarounds if you think about it. but i am hoping that the summer will be less hectic. although i think i've been saying this for awhile...

that said--i am watching shaolin soccer. I LOVE STEPHEN CHOW. and this movie is definitely one of my faves--if not my favorite comedy.

it makes me happy when i need it. whenever i need a pick-up in spirits. i turn it on and my mood immediately lifts. it's a much needed balm at times. and it has never failed in its potency. it has never ceased its swift and miraculous impact on my spiritual recovery.

who needs religion when you have shaolin soccer?




Tuesday, February 17, 2009

updates to come

of my lovely trip to seattle.

i saw my incredibly adorable new nephew (who seems to have inherited his mother's sneakily clever ways) and the rest of the family as well.

a ton of food eaten and a ton of food in a checked luggage (a complete luggage full) has me completely stuffed to the brim. i really can't imagine a time when i've been so full in recent years...

i loved seeing some of my closest friends as well. that was really nice.

i saw slumdog millionaire--which is INCREDIBLE. i have to say. thus far, every movie i've seen at the theatres has been well worth it.

i finished life of pi on the plane over.

i ate every single type of food i found disappointing in nyc (thai, vietnamese, mexican, dim sum).

it was a visit with many revelations that i could have lived without ever happening to the people i love.

but it was a great visit with the perfect amount of time (sort of). not much of a resting period--and little turnover time, but it all worked out ok.

i missed seeing a few important people to me and that sort of sucks. but i am hopeful that there will come a time in the near future.

more later!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

the eve...

of my trip to seattle!

i'm looking forward to a break and a vacation. a nice clean break from all that is horrible and tiring and trying and painful. from work and from whatever else that ails me. sometimes the best intentions aren't enough.

"i didn't mean to kill the kid!!"

the outcome, of course, is that someone still died.

i bought an electric toothbrush (finally) and i'm in love with it. i'm a tad obsessed.

i should really pack for my trip tomorrow. my roommate bugged me slightly yesterday.

i've always been enraptured with independence. i've always chafed at being held back or being reigned in or being asked questions about what i'm doing, why, how, when, etc.

i don't like it. i never will. even if i don't know--the only person that will be able to figure it out is ME. if i wanted to have to answer to someone, i'd have married or stayed dependent on my family. i haven't for a reason. i've also been about fairness and privacy. i respect people's privacy and i expect the same. that's where fairness comes in.

it's one thing if this sort of thing comes up in normal conversation--but we all know that there's a difference. there's a different feel and a different way of broaching it. from...

"oh, how was your weekend, did you do anything fun?"

to

"yeah...i noticed you weren't home...could you just like...make sure you let me know when you are going somewhere. i mean i'm not keeping tabs. i just don't want to worry."

this coming from someone who is gone for days at a time and never bothers telling me where she's gone or going as well. plus she knows i am gone days at a time for work. sorry, but you aren't my boss--i do not need to submit my schedule of work to you. and my schedule of play is never up for grabs.

i'm honest--but that doesn't necessarily mean i'm open.

i think she realized she crossed a line though. her reasoning was "it's not that i'm keeping tabs on you or anything--i just worry when i don't see you for a couple of days."

well. i might be inclined to believe that if:

1. we had that type of relationship.
2. she wasn't missing at all hours of the night everyday of the week.
3. she made me privy to all of HER comings and goings.
4. if she herself ever gave me notice when she goes missing days at a time.
5. etc.etc.etc.

i honestly don't believe i'm overreacting. i just can't stand people being nosy and prying into my business and acting like it's a sincere inquiry when none of the actions they themselves display are consistent with it. i'm not angry--just annoyed.

my answer to her was "honestly, i'm not used to answering to anyone and i doubt that would ever change. i won't always tell you where i'm going or what i'm doing unless it comes up. and i don't expect you to tell me what you're up to--which you already don't do as well...so, yeah."

anyhow, she did end up feeling extremely uncomfortable and apologizing. but this is the 3rd time we've had this conversation. i mean seriously--stop bugging me. next time i might be more succinct. if you have gotten this reaction and answer from me before--chances are--THAT'S THE ANSWER. it won't change.

it's not personal. i just don't like people getting up in my personal business in the guise of "concern." heck. i didn't like it when my own family asked me questions--what makes you think i owe you any explanation about what i do in my free time or if i'm traveling for work?

besides. i know it's not concern. i have a strong suspicion it's just for her own selfish reasons. my instincts aren't terrible. you can't do my job and have no instincts. it really is about going with your guts and--i am good at what i do. and i'm just saying--be honest and open and i'll be the same back to you. otherwise--don't expect me to do something you aren't willing to do yourself.

homey don't play that. (i loved that skit)

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

chaos

seriously. why is it still so hectic? oh yeah...probably because i keep missing a week's worth of work for something or other and still have a ton of work to do.

slightly annoying really. i'm really tired. and to switch over to west coast time for a long weekend? could possibly be detrimental to my health....stalking up on the new chapters immunity take care!

i did an overnight in jersey and it was nice. but i've had 3 violent dreams for 3 consecutive nights. i don't remember the 2nd one so much--but i remember the 1st and the one from last night...

it's making me slightly tentative about flying cross country i tell you. but i'm sure it's all in my head.

conference call first thing tomorrow morning--taking up precious time...and then thursday--a relatively easy day planned because i get on said flight (thank god it's direct) to seattle!

drinks with my brother and then for friday--apparently...i am on a "list" to get into a club in downtown seattle. hilarious. i've never been on a "list" so it's slightly cracking me up.

february 18th (wednesday) joy got us tickets to david letterman!!! guest donald trump. i'm looking forward to the top 10 list. we are "guests of cbs" courtesy of some cbs bigwig that was hitting on joy while she was waitressing (no doubt). crack me up.

here's to a much needed long weekend!

Friday, February 6, 2009

so glad

the week's over. it's been a long week. conference call after conference call. don't get me wrong--the information has been incredibly edifying. it just takes a toll as well. then there's been the weather. i love winter. i love snow. i just don't like having to drive in it! it's beautiful. deadly beautiful.

i was going to meet up with joy for shabu and drinks tonight--but i just couldn't stomach getting dressed and going out and i've been doing some work as well. it's just been really tiring and tomorrow will be an all day affair as well. i just didn't have the energy in me to do it!

so on deck tomorrow will be shabu for lunch with mae. then bed bath and beyond somewhere in long island. and then a movie (either gran turino or slumdog millionaire). i'm really excited. i've been dying to see both movies and just haven't found the opportunity or the time.

then a few days of work before i head back to seattle. i'm so excited to see the family and the new nephew and just to be back in the area. i get all nostalgic. all sentimental.

i'm a mix of contradictions. it used to confuse me. i embrace it now. i'm judgmental in an impersonal way--most people don't matter enough for me to be personal about it. i know how that sounds but it is, what it is. if you've been a victim of my tongue lashing--or look of disdain--it's never been personal. i'm rarely personal. the majority of people just aren't important enough to elicit an emotional response. only to people i care about. empathetic--not sympathetic. hot and passionate about certain issues--cold and austere about the rest. but i do have a strong streak of unexpected sentimentality.

i love good people. not the fake ones that put on a front. not the ones that are saccharin sweet--but the ones that admit their flaws and still, don't let it rule their lives. hard, ascerbic wit melded with a heavy dose of self-awareness and hope. everyday is a struggle to be good, to do good but at the same time, live life and have fun. but they always choose, when it counts, to do the right thing and not be bogged by life's little details. the ones that are generous in every sense of the word and truly care about something--whether it's people or not. they just emit goodness. the considerate ones. the chivalrous ones. the passionate ones--whether they show you straight up with intensity or whether they hide behind their lackadaisical nature. you know they care. the ones that don't take themselves so seriously and have a hint of mischief in their demeanor. the ones that love their family--flaws and all. the ones that live life.

i don't romanticize people's characteristics. i'm well aware of the pitfalls of every quality--the polarity that exists with them. i just don't feel that the negative aspect should be the focus. i've been lucky in my life to be surrounded by people like this from the time of my birth. i've rarely met people that i felt were worthy enough to be in the same category--but when i do--i've always tried to cherish my time with them--nothing lasts forever. but i never forget the impact they had on me. they become a part of the many shards of my life--gaining access to the lapses of sentimental thought that pass fleetingly through my mind at inopportune moments throughout my life. and while that may not sound impressive in its significance--considering the words that preceeded--if you let go of the minor detail and any prejudice you might have--you'll realize that, in the grander scheme of my life--they become present throughout--always impacting it. at least while i live and have some semblance of a memory.

i have many heroes and many character detractors. i care for none of them and care for all of them. i've never needed to have their approval--just their company. both reinforces my beliefs, passion, and drive. i'm well aware of my own flaws. the pride. the vanity. the lack of sympathy for normal human conditions. all details. none of it matters. the bigger picture is that it doesn't stop me from believing in the goodness we all encompass. the goodness that exists in one person is more potent than all the horror stories i read about on a daily basis. it sustains me until the next low. and when i hit that low--those shards. those shards are all i need to remember.

i've been blessed to have many shards. memories that bring unadulterated joy to my life. i'm so fortunate to have found a few more good people that have already added to that collection and in the times to come--will no doubt--add some more. my time in ny and with my coworkers has been incredibly enriching.

i've never needed security. it hinders freedom. i accept my precarious decision now. i have no desire to fight my inner nature. i am what i am.

life is good...and this is what happens when you have a good chat with someone who has impacted your life positively...well--that and decided to stay in on a friday night. :) i'm not a good person in the normal sense of the word. i think most people i've met have probably thought of me as incredibly cold, judgmental, harsh and heartless. but i've never claimed to be good. too many flaws, too many missed opportunities, too many selfish decisions, too many times of self-absorption. this little manifesto itself is self-indulgent. but that doesn't mean i can't spot goodness and appreciate it when i find it. they give me hope. make me feel like i can fly. that this world is worth saving--and that's why i do what i do and believe what i believe.

i don't need to be a good person when there are so many good people already existent in this world. i don't need to be a good person--i just have to surround myself with good people! haha

Thursday, February 5, 2009

why distinguish?

because there are levels of nearly everything. levels of pain. levels of crime. levels of love. levels of hate. it's all there. if you don't discern the difference--then every crime should have the same punishment.

that said--i think i do, in fact, owe the state of ny money. gahhhhhhh. that's soooooo vexing.

i kept meaning to do a brief synopsis of so many things--and just never got around to it--and now...can readily admit i never will! but below is a picture of me and a coworker from our team meeting in burlington vermont the 2nd week of december...i was sick as a dog--which was unfortunate because i look like hell in every photo. i'm not photogenic anyways though--so ehhh. oh well!



"don't let your morale flag. be daunted, but not defeated. remember: the spirit, above all else, counts. if you have the will to live, you will." -- life of pi

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

taxes

"you may not believe in life, but i don't believe in death. move on! the reason death sticks so closely to life isn't biological necessity--it's envy. life is so beautiful that death has fallen in love with it, a jealous, possessive love that grabs at what it can. but life leaps over oblivion lightly, losing only a thing or two of no importance, and gloom is but the passing shadow of a cloud."

~~~

i have spent hours and hours and i am disgusted that i owe money. i used 2 different online programs to make sure. the first one made me pay more--but the second one still means i owe money.

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?!

i am going to take it to a tax professional now because maybe--i've just messed up somewhere and am missing some deductions. but if it ends up that i owe money even after that plus had to pay the guy? i'll be pissed.

i need to get married. or adopt a kid ASAP.

i hate this time of year. well. i do now.

3 separate and additional ny taxes and i still owe money???? ARE YOU KIDDING ME??

exhorbitant living arrangements and i still owe money to the state of ny??? wth?

i am extremely perturbed by this. and that's putting it mildly! i will revisit this tomorrow when i check and re-enter information.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

snowingggggggggggg

"when you've suffered a great deal in life, each additional pain is both unbearable and trifling." --life of pi

~~~

again. i honestly don't remember being bombarded with so many different times of snow before in my life. it makes for a very interesting work day. i've been changing my plans because of my unwillingness to drive to certain areas that are sure to have more snow. but it's ok i think.


i get my work in regardless so it shouldn't be that big a deal.

sometimes you know when something just isn't right. i feel like i'm observant enough and open enough to see things that others don't necessarily see or appreciate--and i feel like i'm a relatively good judge of character? but obviously i'm not infallible. regardless of any of that. i just thought i'd write that. this really has nothing to do with anything. but it's my blog so i can write what i want.

i finally created a gmail email account. so that's nice--no spam so far!

Sunday, February 1, 2009

just another lazy weekend

well. not really really. i mean. i did do a lot--just not much of what i planned on doing. ha. i am watching the superbowl while blogging during commercials. i did love that heroes commercial that featured john elway. god i love john elway. my fave player ever. that and the glove--gp--gary payton.

joy came over to the dark side friday night. i was supposed to cook a relatively traditional lao dinner--but i got home late from jersey, still had to do a ton of office stuff--and we ended up going to shabu instead (i was also there on wednesday with a mae and irene). surprise surprise.

then we came back, put in 3 movies i had (suicide kings, devil wears prada, a bug's life) and crashed.

we were supposed to wake up at 9ish--i even set the alarm. but i turned off the alarm and went back to bed. we didn't end up leaving the house until 11:30 for brunch at daisy's diner. then we drove off in search of a bed bath and beyond in brooklyn (never made it) and headed back to fairway in red hook instead.

i call it joy's brooklyn adventure. somehow, no matter how hard we try--we're just not the planning sort. plans just have a way of changing with the day's mood! but i think that's how it should be.

i am headed back to my beloved, quaint, pacific northwest on the 12th. i'm mass excited. it will be great to see the fam and especially my brand spankin new nephew (well, not so new anymore, but new to me). i am planning on eating up a storm of southeast asian cuisine. why? because what passes for it here is godawful. just awful. the thai food is hideously bland. the vietnamese food is whitenized and the banh mi should NOT have american style cuts in it. anyhow, southeast asian food here stinks. i can't say i'm impressed by the mexican food either. i was never a fan of mexican food to begin with--but it does not compare to its counterpart on the west coast. otherwise--everything else is delish.

so i am extremely excited. food hasn't been tasting so good to me lately and i'm not sure why. but everything is just--blah.

HEROES SEASON PREMIERE TOMORROW!

here's hoping that life settles down some and...yeah. yeah.

i have finished 4 of the books i purchased. i have started reading "life of pi" which i am completely besotted with already. there are tons of good quotes in it. i think i shall start putting a quote in every blog. i probably won't keep it up very long--but it seems like a good idea that is doubtlessly a cliche.

i also finally have gotten with the program and opened a gmail email account. i had my hotmail account for 10 years. wow.

also love that soda commercial that utilized peter and the wolf (sergei prokofiev).

i am also obsessed with the following sites:

www.urbandictionary.com
http://bodyodd.msnbc.msn.com